Fathers celebrated everywhere

it's only right they should have a card

an identity with loving thoughts

firmness and fairness shining through

to seal the bond

from early days to the great beyond


but I must stand aside

my stepsons otherwise engaged

as the rule of Kings and earthly things

still binds by blood

what I can't give

as long as all of us shall live.




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Fri 21st Jun 2019 17:39

Thanks for picking this up Jennifer! Always lovely to get your input. Yes, of course there is a back story ; sadly my experience led at one point to some therapy which was helpful.
It's a tricky balance with cards, as with presents their is an element of conventionality. I think the ladies like it!


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jennifer Malden

Fri 21st Jun 2019 16:51

Nice one Ray! I know at least one stepfather who has done a far better job than the biological father, after a dicey time at the start, as you said, so I'm sure you will have been a good one too. Agree with Martin about the commercialisation of all these 'days'. Why isn't there a men's day? We all know the answer to that one!


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Tue 18th Jun 2019 23:09

Thanks for your likes David, Afishamongmany, Dorothy and Devon .

Devon, I'm delighted for that thought cheers. I'm quite resigned and happy to be a stepfather but it was a bummer to start with!

Thanks Martin very much appreciated. Your comment rightly covers most aspects: of the token ideals of cards for one. It does of course go much deeper than that and I have a healthy rapport with my step kids and grandkids. I think I would describe it as being ringside instead of in the ring. My experience has been to tread lightly and care greatly.


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Martin Elder

Mon 17th Jun 2019 10:42

Like many celebrations I have very mixed feelings about the crass commercialism that always accompanies such events. On the other hand I applaud the recognition of good fathering, because there are a lot of good fathers and step fathers around that so often don't get a mention. At the same time I grieve for those who have not had a good father experience for whom such events would be something not worth celebrating.
But good on you Ray I am sure you have made a good step father
Nice one mate

Devon Brock

Sun 16th Jun 2019 23:18

Aw, man. This is both wonderful and sad. I send you a happy (step)Fathers' Day.

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