Me mam
With an abiding glint of love in her faded, smiling eyes,
brown eyes that inhabit my dreams, spark my memories,
my mother tells me she has dementia, a cross for us to bear,
or so saith her silver-tinted hair. She laboured for our family.
with her handbag gripped in her laughing lap, taking buses,
while waiting patiently, in her mac, for the number 207.
She still smiles at my silly jokes and encouraging repartee
We share so many ways yet she's often the opposite of me:
freer, grander, with a more baroque style, a heroine of WW2.
She was the clear-eyed protector of my younger days,
my sanctuary and my accomplice. A rebel with a cause.
She laboured without complaint, got on with everyone,
always patient with all my mistakes. Loving her children,
the tenderest, by far, my brother, Pete, who died, young.
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Rolph David
Sun 15th Jun 2025 09:58
John,
Your poem deeply touched me. The way you hold your mother’s spirit alive — through memories, shared smiles, and her enduring presence — is both beautiful and heartbreaking. Dementia is such a cruel thief, stealing pieces of who we know, yet your words remind us that love remains, even when memories fade. It’s a different kind of loss, but the tenderness and history you share keep her close. I’m so sorry for your pain, and for the loss of your brother, too. Holding onto those precious fragments is all we can do sometimes, and you do it with grace.
Take care,
regards,
Rolph