Thanks so much , Stephen, especially for the Larkin reference, for as you know, I am a fan!
The poem stemmed from a passing thought at my dad's funeral, 36 years ago, 'Am I showing sufficient, obvious grief?'
Grief, like justice, has to be seen to be done!
I like the major's line, too 😂

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A superb, rather Larkinesque poem, John. I really enjoyed it. It's true that dress codes are more relaxed at funerals but have attitudes changed? I remember the Major in Fawlty Towers:

Major: 'I'm going to a memorial service, Fawlty'.
Basil: 'Tie's a bit bright, isn't it, Major?'
Major: 'Oh, I didn't like the chap,'

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Thanks so much, Holden and Keith. Really valued and appreciated your comments. My wife says the poem flies in the face of how I actually respond at these events. I was trying to get to the truth but who knows where the truth really lies amongst so much social conditioning?
Thanks Nigel and Stephen A for the likes. 😀

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Extremely truthful and written with flair, John! Every stanza is excellent! 😎

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A poem which describes our outward demeanour when in certain situations. It is as if we are required to behave in a certain manner. This has often troubled me as it is false and conjured up to meet the occasion and lacking in any true emotion. Should we not be so conformist and act naturally? The poem is well written and true. However, it focuses on the Rites of Passage rather than every day feelings and how we are when in public view.
I enjoyed this and thank you.
Keith

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