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The Need For Approval

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The Need for Approval

 

The need for approval's so ingrained

It stops many writers from going

Outside of the bounds of convention

Outside of from what they want showing

 

Damn! Can't we break this obsession

And be our true selves on the site

Just write what we feel, what we want to

Whether others might think it wrong, right?

 

You can sense my anger grow as I'm writing

Put up your ideas on our screens

Don't be tied down by convention

New ideas don't emerge unless seen

 

But hey? Don whatever will they think?

When I write about sex beyond grave?

An interesting topic for discussion?

Come on WOLers branch out, and be brave

 

Of course there are such things as guidelines

Which help retain order, keep us kind

But WOL also allows flexibility

To stretch to the limit, our minds

 

Don Matthews January 2019

 

◄ Damage Done Never Forgotten

British Democracy is Falling Apart ►

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<Deleted User> (21487)

Fri 29th Mar 2019 19:59

Don

"just write what we feel, what we want to
when others might think it wrong"

I am going to take you up on that.
love the graphic.

Dorothy

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Graham Sherwood

Fri 29th Mar 2019 16:00

My entry was by no means a caution/warning just an observation made from a long serving WOLer!

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Don Matthews

Fri 29th Mar 2019 11:08

Graham/Brian

We all have histories and emotions which can be sparked off at any time. Perhaps the lot of a poet? I do see the point of keeping comment to the piece in question though. That's what the comment box is for. It's nice to see you keeping an eye on things Graham. Your job is voluntary and can't be easy at times.

Don

<Deleted User> (18980)

Fri 29th Mar 2019 10:31

Sorry Graham, I normally toe the line when you come on and give such advice, but at the risk of being moderated/suspended...

Don's piece above is very forthright in telling us not to be afraid of being controversial, to break convention, to introduce new ideas. All I have done is to highlight that when I did just this he was equally forthright in his condemnation of my piece and my attitude. I think I am justified in pointing this out, which I have done in a logical way without excess emotion.

If however you want to take action please do so.

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Graham Sherwood

Fri 29th Mar 2019 10:14

Can I please add a pennyworth of comments to this thread. I have been on WOL for ten years (give or take a month) and in almost all cases where emotions become raised it is the comments about the work and NOT the work itself that becomes the issue. It is so easy to attack the writer and not the content of his/her work and the usual result is moderation/suspension.

If poets here on WOL could stick to the content when commenting and writers acknowledge those comments as valid, life would be simpler.

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Don Matthews

Fri 29th Mar 2019 08:15

Correct. I did disapprove of your subject matter in 'This Fling I'm Having, as did others. You also encouraged others to write on more controversial topics. You also agreed accepting flack was part and parcel of writing controversy.

I did not disagree with you writing on a controversial topic it was the topic and the way it was done that I and others disapproved of.

Looking at 'The Need For Approval', Is this 'controversial' deserving of the title 'disapproval'?. Hardly. The only 'controversial' thing seems to be some poor hopeful reader wondering about sex in the afterlife. ?

<Deleted User> (18980)

Fri 29th Mar 2019 07:28

Don - it's interesting that this piece is dated January 2019. When I posted my poem 'This Fling I'm Having' on 5 January, which covered the controversial subjects of misogyny and obesity, you made it quite clear in your comments and in follow-up private messages that you disapproved of my subject matter.

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Don Matthews

Fri 29th Mar 2019 07:23

A few months ago I vaguely remember a WOLer wondering what sex would feel like in the afterlife.

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