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Fostering

You've got attachment issues, kid,

and I can't take this hat off my head:

we're beginning to make eye contact.

 

Seven pairs of shoes you've worn today;

I'm breaking out of The First Aid Box

into the parallel play area.

 

Your hair stands up on the trampoline

like Harpo Marx in the kitchen clock;

I wonder if we're catching you in time.

 

Let's see how high these bricks will stack

then knock them down and start again

with emotional ambivalence.

 

I'm captured in a double bind

by the way she zips that buggy along

and your horizontal demeanour.

 

She sing-song soothes and modulates;

I'm a stickler for authenticity:

there's a method in my sadness.

 

We've stuck you in to family snaps

to attract a special mum and dad;

it's a mercenary transfer market.

 

These little pigs and billy-goats

will fall asleep for a hundred years;

I'm trying to keep the wolf from the door.

 

What shall we say? Thank you very much !

The chances are we won't stay in touch -

I'll just be a name in your memory box.

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Elaine Booth

Tue 16th Aug 2011 23:59

This line stands out to me:

I wonder if we're catching you in time.

This says so much of what it's all about. A lot of the time they aren't caught in time at all.

That said it is a wonderful poem and being also in this line of work it really chimed with me.

Actually as I re-read, I realise that every single third line is extremely strong, undermining the hope that keeps you carrying on but never quite stopping you.

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Ray Miller

Sun 7th Aug 2011 23:36

Thanks(belatedly) Dave and thanks Isobel.My wife is absolutely brilliant with kids - she's had a lot of practice looking after me, mind.She connects with them in hours whereas I take weeks.

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Isobel

Sun 7th Aug 2011 13:12

Not many people could write a poem like this - give an insight like this Ray.

The difficulties of handling damaged children, the trying to get through, to connect, to support, without offering too much or long term disappointment.

I particularly like the trampoline verse and its underlying meaning. Without wanting to gush or back slap at all, I think you and your wife are a formidable pair - off the scale in terms of genoristy and human spirit. Don't seem to be able to put into words what I would like to say.

This poem is wonderful.

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Dave Carr

Tue 26th Jul 2011 22:05

Some great images here. You are baring your soul I feel. But you must have passed the medical (I enjoyed that too). I'm sure what you do makes a difference.
Dave

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Ray Miller

Tue 26th Jul 2011 21:58

Thank you, Ann, Greg, Jules. Oh, it's rewarding alright, but that kind of makes it worse!

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Tue 26th Jul 2011 17:13

Great poem. I have written a similar one called Heaven.

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Greg Freeman

Tue 26th Jul 2011 08:57

Sounds like the whole business is an emotional roller-coaster, and I guess it must be for you, Ray. "We've stuck you in to family snaps / to attract a special mum and dad" and "The chances are we won't stay in touch - / I'll just be a name in your memory box". It must be tough at the best of times. But rewarding too, hopefully.

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Ann Foxglove

Mon 25th Jul 2011 16:31

I think this is very good. Somehow ambivalent, but there's such a lot in it. Great last line, and the juxtaposition of childish nursery rhyme images with a coldness, I like that. Funnily enough my neighbours have just adopted - their first day today! And I wish them well.

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