THE TORMENTOR
Imagine a tormentor - a sadist
invisibly at work, and though you have confessed
signed your life away you cannot be rid of him.
There is no cure, no end to it, only moments of relief
when you can draw breath - and some comfort,
but that tormentor knows all the tricks
he has the permission of your immunity
condemning you like Judas Iscariot.
We call this rheumatoid arthritis
people don't usually understand it
but they know of arthritis, wear and tear
yes, a relative will have had that....
still a trial, but not this festering blood bound
contagion that swims through you
and never comes up for air.
We can still love that old chair that limps on
with uneven legs and creaking joints,
but an invasion of woodworm - quite another matter.
Some days are easier than others she says
and rests heavily on bravery.
No one sees the evidence, it is a lonely battle.
Though there are aids to be had - wet rooms
an assortment of gadgets, a disabled badge
the long experiment to find the right drugs,
the certainty is that there can be no cure.
When telling people you have it their eyes glaze over:
if they can't spell it in the bin so to speak.
With cancer you get the full shock, the sympathy,
publicity, the push for knowledge.
This condition is not life - threatening, just threatening.
But some days are easier than others, she says
implying that today might just be one.
raypool
Sat 22nd Mar 2025 19:49
Thanks one and all for the likes, excuse me if I do not mention you all.
Thanks for you points Graham. I enjoyed posting - it's taken a while to get my head on in that regard. It is my wife that has the problem (for twenty five years) and it's always a challenge . It often comes on at a youngish age and is then the more severe generally, so this is not utterly disabling but has wreaked a massive change to someone who enjoyed sports and decorating, you name it. It hardly ever comes on at a late stage of life!
Ray
Martin, i'm glad those lines meant something - for me they convey the journey of a sort of rogue presence through the body. It feels as if I have shared the company and the challenge without the actual pain - although one's pace has changed over the years.
Stephen good to get your sympathetic ear, and of course it does impact on life together. I agree "like" is an awkward word when applied to such subjects but what else is there?
A lot of wisdom in those points David. You hit the truth in the first lines; I know you have a parallel story to tell within a partnership and no one can judge consequences of ordeals. Your third paragraph would be a fine achievement familiar i'm sure to those who work in surgery with life threatening conditions but perhaps on un unconscious level - I can't say.
Love to you both too.