THE TORMENTOR

Imagine a tormentor - a sadist

invisibly at work, and though you have confessed

signed your life away you cannot be rid of him. 

There is no cure, no end to it, only moments of relief

when you can draw breath - and some comfort,

but that tormentor knows all the tricks

he has the permission of your immunity

condemning you like Judas Iscariot.

 

We call this rheumatoid arthritis

people don't usually understand it

but they know of arthritis, wear and tear

yes, a relative will have had that....

still a trial, but not this festering blood bound

contagion that swims through you

and never comes up for air. 

 

We can still love that old chair that limps on

with uneven legs and creaking joints,

but an invasion of woodworm - quite another matter. 

Some days are easier than others she says

and rests heavily on bravery.

No one sees the evidence, it is a lonely battle. 

 

Though there are aids to be had - wet rooms

an assortment of gadgets, a disabled badge

the long experiment to find the right drugs,

the certainty is that there can be no cure.

 

When telling people you have it  their eyes glaze over:

if they can't spell it in the bin so to speak.

With cancer you get the full shock, the sympathy,

publicity, the push for knowledge.

This condition is not life - threatening, just threatening.

But some days are easier than others, she says

implying that today might just be one. 

 

◄ IT'S EASY TO GET ANNOYED

STREET HAIKU ►

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raypool

Sat 22nd Mar 2025 19:49

Thanks one and all for the likes, excuse me if I do not mention you all.

Thanks for you points Graham. I enjoyed posting - it's taken a while to get my head on in that regard. It is my wife that has the problem (for twenty five years) and it's always a challenge . It often comes on at a youngish age and is then the more severe generally, so this is not utterly disabling but has wreaked a massive change to someone who enjoyed sports and decorating, you name it. It hardly ever comes on at a late stage of life!

Ray

Martin, i'm glad those lines meant something - for me they convey the journey of a sort of rogue presence through the body. It feels as if I have shared the company and the challenge without the actual pain - although one's pace has changed over the years.

Stephen good to get your sympathetic ear, and of course it does impact on life together. I agree "like" is an awkward word when applied to such subjects but what else is there?

A lot of wisdom in those points David. You hit the truth in the first lines; I know you have a parallel story to tell within a partnership and no one can judge consequences of ordeals. Your third paragraph would be a fine achievement familiar i'm sure to those who work in surgery with life threatening conditions but perhaps on un unconscious level - I can't say.
Love to you both too.

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David RL Moore

Thu 20th Mar 2025 16:38

Hi Ray,

good to see you here, the piece certainly challenges us all to think...if not for those suffering at least for ourselves in years to come.

It is difficult for partners to soldier on when the other is suffering, to witness it and to remain in a receptive mode...this may sound selfish but I feel it is realistic.

Maybe the trick is to love the sufferer and save the bitterness for the affliction.

Things certainly do not get easier for us as we get older. We become invisible to many.

Love to you both pal.

David

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Martin Elder

Thu 20th Mar 2025 15:28

Sorry to hear that you have this debilitating condition. It can't be pleasant but none the less I love your poem, particularly
the lines

but not this festering blood bound

contagion that swims through you

and never comes up for air.
marvellous. Glad to see you have not lost your creative edge.

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Stephen Gospage

Thu 20th Mar 2025 06:58

Like Graham, I have mixed feelings about 'likes" here, Ray. It is a great achievemnt to write something so profound and readable on such a tragic subject. This is the sort of poem that should be widely read, though behind it there is a difficult personal situation.
I can only sympathise and admire the day-to-day courage.

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Graham Sherwood

Wed 19th Mar 2025 16:55

I feel guilty 'liking' this Ray. I was really pleased to see a new entry by yourself and then I read this tortuous piece about such a pernicious debilitating malady.

You imply it is your better half/partner who is the real sufferer but suffice to say that you have put the fear of christ up us all as we age. Bravo!

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