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Invisible

Reflections on old age.

I have eventually accepted that I am invisible.

Not only am I invisible, no one can hear me.

Some people have begun to look through me,

Over me and around me.

My opinions are rarely sought,

My interest hardly ever engaged,

And my conversation simply ignored.

You would never know I was there

In time I also began to disappear from photos.

I look and look again,

But I do not see my face.

It is not there no matter how hard I stare.

Pale face, grey hair does not engage the eye.

Who is this woman masquerading as me.

 

It’s the same with mirrors,

Who was this looking back

With this blank no account face.

Certainly it is not me,

I who still has so much to offer,

So much to say,

But so little time to be noticed.

 

So don’t judge me on how I look.

Don’t dismiss me, because of who you think I am.

Don’t ignore me because you can.

Just ignite that twinkle in my eye,

That smile on my lips,

And the dimple in my cheek.

Perform a miracle,

See me transform

From an invisible old lady

Into who I really am.

Val Cook 2010

◄ The Child I Used to Be

Separation ►

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jane wilcock

Tue 15th Feb 2011 08:01

Hi Val, I enjoyed the poetry performances at Butterflies last weekend. Thanks for your comment re Solar Power, it is much appreciated. I have heard Invisible before and enjoyed listening to it again. A lot of poems are more enjoyable when familiar, like music, I can look forward to certain lines. There ahould be more poems promoting or expressing feelings about the over 50s.

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winston plowes

Fri 3rd Dec 2010 13:47

Hi Val... A real issue for many. nicely expressed. Win x

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Dave D Poet Rhumour

Tue 23rd Nov 2010 09:44

Well said Val - I confess there are times when I prefer to be invisible, but I'm too noisy to be ignored when I require attention, hehe. Best wishes, Dave

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Val Cook

Sun 31st Oct 2010 18:46

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate your comments.























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Chris Dawson

Sun 31st Oct 2010 15:28

Excellent Val. I don't think I can add to the comments here, they've said it all already. And like several others here - I can identify so strongly with this.
Cx

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Fri 29th Oct 2010 12:02

A very compassionate poem Val.
It reminds me of when my mother in law had a stroke and lost the use of her vocal chords. She often got left out of the conversations. She had a very expressive face which lit up the room once she made it known she wasn't going to be ignored just because she couldn't join in. I have very fond memories of her so thank you for posting this x

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Isobel

Thu 28th Oct 2010 20:13

To my mind your best poem yet Val. Great cos it deals with a difficult subject head on - the rawness, the sadness and the bitter truth of it.

Laura is right to say that this problem affects women more than men. I personally detest the way most men seek out women a good 10 years younger than themselves when looking for partners. However, it is a fact of life and just something that us women have to live with.
I've been lucky in that my hair is slow to turn grey - I will probably die it when the time comes cos I think older people do get a tougher deal. If not made to feel invisible they are treated like children - with that smiling indulgence, that they do not deserve.
Getting old is horrid - the same fate awaits all of us - this poem is scary in a way.

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Val Cook

Thu 28th Oct 2010 18:25

Laura,thanks again.I know I should not rush posting,a lesson learned.

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Ann Foxglove

Thu 28th Oct 2010 17:39

Wow Val - I certainly noticed you at Hebden Bridge (and wasn't that a rather raunchy poem that you read!) Anyone as lively, warm and vibrant as you (and quite forceful too I would imagine) should always be noticed! I found when I reached 50 I disappeared, unless I made eye contact. And I now wear brighter clothes and more jewellery and stuff and I feel better than before - even if no-one notices!! xx

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Dave Bradley

Thu 28th Oct 2010 17:30

This is well-written and thought-provoking, Val. It is a reality which has driven the explosion in the 'image industry'. Facelifts, liposuction, botox, detox, and the rest. Hairdye is just a small part of it. It's a person's right to choose, but I really respect women who stick to their guns and cheerfully go grey.

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Francine

Thu 28th Oct 2010 16:01

This is so sad, but also unfortunately true in many western societies where we do not appreciate and respect the elderly.

I was always close to my grandmother (on my father's side, as I saw her more growing up) and I loved spending time with her and her friends talking, asking questions, and learning from their experiences. I was always her favourite grandchild because I was the only one who would go out of my way to see her, and to drive her places she needed to go... I have always admired and respected older people because they were the ones who contributed to my future.

This is thought-provoking and brought back some lovely memories for me, Val.

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Thu 28th Oct 2010 15:31

hi val, liked this well written piece

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Laura Taylor

Thu 28th Oct 2010 14:47

Hi Val - phew, was worried in case I'd said the wrong thing! Couple more (if you want to get them all sorted, like) - 'My opinions are rarely sort' - should be 'sought'. Also second verse - 'I who still has so much to offer' - should that not be 'have'? There's a surplus comma after 'lips' and 'from on invisible' I think should be 'from an invisible'.

Sorry Val - I wish I could find work as a proofreader cos I always see the buggers!

Back to the poem and away from technicalities - I do like it, and especially so because I haven't read any written by older women about this very subject, a subject all women become very aware of as they age. Having any kind of 'attitude' after the age of 35 means that one is immediately deemed to be a mad old bat, or a 'dried up' mad old bat. I think I might punch the first person that says that to me. Dry that up! :D

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Val Cook

Thu 28th Oct 2010 14:31

Laura,hope I have fixed them all.
Thanks to you and Stef for taking the time to comment.

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Thu 28th Oct 2010 14:02

Well! I can see you,and I think you are very nice-as nice as this poem-so there! my best regards-Stef-xx

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Laura Taylor

Thu 28th Oct 2010 13:06

I like the sentiments expressed in this. People, especially women, DO start to become less visible to society. That's how I justify getting outrageously drunk in public - keeps me in the spotlight ;)

There are a couple of typos/incorrect words in there that I'm not sure are actually typos, or whether you've put them in there deliberately, in the persona of another ageing woman? I realise that you run a WOL event and have a history of writing so I apologise profusely if I have just put my size 5 in my gob!!


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