When I Choose You
While I was searching for the meaning of love,
I saw you—newly bloomed,
glowing in the midst of all my doubts.
But my mind was still caught in ego.
I used to believe that love was pain,
so I wandered, looking for a flower
soft enough to touch without fear.
When I finally said, “I choose you,”
I found you were a rose with many thorns.
Yet.. you longed for the same heaven as I did.
Loving you may wound me,
but as long as you desire the same heaven as me,
I will be glad to hold you in my arms,
alongside the wound that love has carved.
Yanma Hidayah
Mon 5th May 2025 17:11
Dear Rolph,
Thank you so much for your thoughtful words. I completely agree with your phrase, “spiritual alignment that makes love worth the risk of pain.” I've heard stories that in marriage, the feeling of being in love might only last for four or five years. After that, many couples stay together—often for the sake of their children and the possibility of one partner falling in love with someone else can be quite real.
Personally and I believe many people feel the same, we often hope that marriage is a once-in-a-lifetime commitment. To preserve that, I believe we need to anchor it in a higher purpose. Sharing the same desire to be in the same heaven is the kind of ultimate goal that can transcend emotional ups and downs, temptations, and the wounds we may encounter along the way.
By viewing love as a spiritual journey rather than just a temporary emotion, we create space for loyalty, mutual growth, and the hope of an eternal reunion in the life beyond. From that perspective, love is not only about being happy in this world, but about completing the soul together.
Thank you once again, Rolph.
Warm regards,
Yanma