It is what it is this is a phrase I say.
It is what it is I use it in such way.

If something is beyond my control.

I choose to say those words that way.

It’s what it is doesn’t mean I don’t care.

What good will it do if I cried to you I think something is unfair.

it’s meant to showcase if I had my way.

I might rearrange things in such a way they work for me every which way.

Then you might say it is what it is and try another day to get your way.